I'm at such a strange place right now. My heart is feeling every
emotion possible. More importantly though I feel peace and excitement
about our TWINS!!!!!. I wish I could share a picture with you.
They
are precious. I've come to accept that if it is in God's will for them
to be a part of our family that NOTHING on earth can keep that from
happening. There is one boy and one girl they are almost two. That
means three kids that are two. WOW! Not in my plan, but Proverbs 19:21
( I quote it often) Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails.
My
heart is heavy with all that is going on in the adoption/blog world. So
many people are either shutting their blog down or taking them private.
Which means only invited people can read.
The reason is valid and I
respect everyone's motives. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with
wanting to protect your family. There has been a lot stirred up in the
adoption community lately.
A huge thing is the lost referral of
twins that someone experienced. Adoption is a hard enough process
anyway and then you find out about a disheartening story of a lost
referral due to information on a blog. But there are more factors than
just a blog. I will not go into details because they are not mine to
give. Here are a few safeguards you can take:
1. Find out if the
country you are adopting from allow you to post pictures of their kids.
Remember even though you have claimed them in your heart and have been
referred to them, they are not "yours" until they have gone through all
court proceedings. Or on the safe side wait until they are home.
2.
Find alternative ways to fundraise. If you need to fundraise for you
adoption that's awesome just do so outside of your personal blog.
If you are still concerned here are some extras:
3. Take your last name out of your blog address.
4. Change the identifying names of yourself and you children out of your blog. Maybe just use first letter.
Please
know that the family that lost their referral had a lot of things
happening that most of us don't. I would like to also mention that they
also have chosen to keep their blog open.
I want more than
anything to tell you all(whoever that maybe) that your blog matters! It
matters to more than the invited or the people that you know leave
comments. Last year I was a stay at home mom with four kids looking for
something. Then I found it. I found you! I read your blogs everyday
gaining strength, wisdom and courage. Your blog, your words, your heart
spoke to me. It told me that Yes, I can make difference, I can handle
more than I thought and the little things matter. I read as you went
through your journey, I cried when things fell through, I rejoiced when
simple things like your Chi was replaced. You became my highlight. You
don't know who's reading your blog, you don't know who's life you are
touching. It might be me or some other woman who found the friend
they've been looking for their whole life. So, please never
underestimate your thoughts, your words, your heart or your blog.
So as for me and my blog we will forever remain public.
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I'm the help meet to my hero, mother to 4 kiddos (praying for more), in the pursuit of adopting from Africa. I'm not defined by what I do, but by who I am in Christ. I love my God. Love my husband, love my kids, and love serving wherever I'm led. I finally stopped caring about what others think and I can proudly proclaim- I am me! A little bit goofy, somewhat crazy, kind of sentimental, and a whole lot of dork.
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